Ladies, I have four points to make about allegations of sexual harassment, assault and rape throughout our country.

1. I am disappointed by the number of women in leadership positions who turn a blind eye to other women who were victimized. I am a “mama bear” when it comes to my employees. My predominately female team KNOWS that any inappropriate behavior against them will result in World War III – and those who are not on my team know it as well. People are saying that a solution to sexual harassment is to hire more women in leadership positions. Um… No… The solution is to hire more STRONG and COURAGEOUS women in leadership positons. All women are not worthy of a place at the board room table. Be those STRONG and COURAGEOUS women.

1. Your uncle and I have been happily married for many years. No topic – and I mean no topic – is off the table in our marriage. I have reminded him that if he ever loses his mind and engages in illegal or inappropriate behavior, he may very well lose his freedom, his livelihood and his marriage. We keep it real, and we do not walk on eggshells in our marriage. When the time comes, you too need to be comfortable having that conversation with your man, boyfriend or boo.

1. I believe that most of the women making these allegations are telling the truth. However, I also believe some are lying. Let’s not forget that some innocent people are in jail because of lying women. Let’s not forget that some innocent people have been murdered because of lying women. Emmett Till is just one example – there are many more.

1. There are people – mostly men – who claim they were unaware they were sexually harassing women. I have some questions for them. Would you do or say those things to your daughter? Would you do or say those things to your mama? Would you do or say those things to your sister? If the answer is “no,” then you KNOW you were doing wrong. If you answer is “yes,” then you have MAJOR issues and need your butt whipped.

Girls, know your worth and speak up when you are wronged.

Dear sweetness 1 and sweetness 2,

You will certainly encounter negativity, drama and jealousy throughout life. However, there are effective ways to deal with those types of people.

When you encounter people like that, feed them with a long-handled spoon or cut them out of your life all together.

Mental illness is real, jealousy is a cancer and most people are not what they seem. Keep your circle small and live your life. When folks try to bring their mess into your world, shut the door in their faces.

Tell them this: “I don’t have time for the drama. Save it for your mama.”

Dear girls,

I struggle with TV – especially reality TV. These shows cast Black women and girls in the most negative light.

Always know the difference between real life and reality TV and never allow anyone to stereotype you based on what they see on TV. You are better than that – and remind them of that as often as necessary.

These TV shows are big business and thus are not going away. And neither are we.